Mon 27 Oct 2008
Kindness
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A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.
If there is any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not deter or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.
Complete possession is proved only by giving. All you are unable to give possesses you.
How beautiful a day can be when kindness touches it.
My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.
We do not remember days, we remember moments.
Put your heart, mind, intellect and soul even to your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.
The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
Do every act of your life as if it were your last.
I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community, and as long as I live it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no “brief candle” for me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.
Compassion is an alternate perception.
Love is not getting, but giving. Not a wild dream of pleasure and a madness of desire–oh, no–love is not that! It is goodness and honor and peace and pure living–yes, love is that and it is the best thing in the world and the thing that lives the longest.
What lies before us and what lies behind us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within out into the world, miracles happen.
Living the truth in your heart without compromise brings kindness into the world. Attempts at kindness that compromise your heart cause only sadness.
What you deny to others will be denied to you, for the plain reason that you are always legislating for yourself; all your words and actions define the world you want to live in.
Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.
To receive everything, one must open one’s hands and give.
Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself.
The heart that breaks open can contain the whole universe.
The question is not whether we will die, but how we will live.
Each small task of everyday life is part of the total harmony of the universe.
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.
Keep on sowing your seed, for you never know which will grow – perhaps it all will.
Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolutions.
The best portions of a good man’s life. His little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.
Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us every day.
Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.
3 things in human life are important. The 1st is to be kind. The 2nd is to be kind. & the 3rd is to be kind.
There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.
A simple “helloâ€, a genuine smile, or compassionate glance, can all have such beautiful effects of which we’ll never really be aware.
By plucking her petals, you do not gather the beauty of the flower.
Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.
Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light.
Wed 22 Oct 2008
Save The Ta-Ta’s
Posted by Heidi under Life's Lessons, Ramblings & Such
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It’s that time of year again…National Breast Cancer Awareness Month!!
Whether they are big or little, high or low….Check those boobies ladies!!
….a friendly reminder, brought to you by Heidi
Thu 16 Oct 2008
If I Had A Horn, I’d Toot It!
Posted by Heidi under Life's Lessons, O.C.D., Ramblings & Such
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A random picture I just came across. Appropriate for this time of year, reminds me of Halloween. It was taken a few years back on a hot and 
sunny, summer day. A random day. For no particular reason, my best friend Deanna and I donned these masks while driving around running errands….in a convertible. It wasn’t out of character for either of us, perhaps this was a warning, an indication we I had issues.
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This month has been pretty uneventful. I had a Doctors appointment for my ear infection, I have started to prepare my turtle, Kiwi for hibernation. Got new front tires for my car, I lost my mom for a day (she was fine!) I did have the pleasure of having my son and his puppies come for a week-end visit…twice!!! I survived another birthday, officially reaching my
mid-forties! And….I did something that, a few years ago I could never have fathomed. It was unrealistic, a goal that was unreachable within my wildest dreams.
But I did it…..and if I had a horn, I would toot it!
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Seven years ago, after experiencing a traumatic event I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (O.C.D.) I had a type, similar to what they refer to as Trichotillomania, a form of hair pulling. Long story short, I would spend an average of 5 to 12 hours a day pulling my hair out, eventually leaving me completely bald. As fast as those babies
grew back in, I would yank them right back out. There was nothing anyone could do or say that would justify my stopping. The urge or ‘impulse’ has often been described as a hiccup in your brain, or a brain lock, preventing your brain from shifting gears. Wigs (later dubbed “the helmets”) and scarves did a great job of covering the physical effects, but the emotional and psychological damage it caused was often more than I could bear. This not only impacted my life, affecting my ability to function in the outside world….it unfortunately took a toll on everyone around me.
Unable to fully comprehend what I was going through, and not knowing how to deal with it, some people pulled away from me….abandoning our relationship. Those who stood by me were there through the thick and thin, good days and the bad reiterating their unconditional love. After six years, with the support of my loved ones by my side, many hours of therapy, medications, a lot of sweat, tears, prayers and determination. I (toot-toot) have reached a personal (tooooot) milestone. As of October 5th, 2008 it has been (toot-toot-toot) one year since I have tugged, pulled or mutilated my hair (tooot) in any way!!! After going through a year of awkward lengths and styles…..I finally got my first real “girly” haircut. I maintain therapy to help prevent any sort of relapse, but I’m there.
A few years ago I could never have fathomed this. It was unrealistic, a goal that was unreachable within my wildest dreams.
But I did it…..and if I had a horn, I would toot it!
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Wed 8 Oct 2008
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It doesn’t matter how you look at it, it’s still old.
So yesterday I celebrated my 45th birthday, the phone rang off the hook, I received virtual greetings and got pampered. It’s nice to feel special, to have your loved ones acknowledge your special day. But it’s just not like it used to be, I remember, in my younger days going to bed the night before with butterflies in my tummy. I remember waking up with such anticipation, being a princess for a day. Having no worries, not a care in the world. Watching the clock, waiting for your friends and family to show up with cards, presents….having a cake with candles that fit on it.
The clock ticks, the years go by, we get old. The butterflies in your tummy have turned to gas, the anticipation now anxiety and you now can’t even stay awake to greet your friends and family. Your idea of presents are no longer a Barbie Dream House or a new bike….you are now just happy to have your health, to have family and friends that care. Your expectations of being a princess for a day have diminished….reality has set in. You’re 45 now, (oh and yes, it will happen to you too!) this is now your idea of a perfect Birthday:
• Dyed my eyebrows
• Cleaned the litter box (my cats)
• Researched hearing-aids
• Had a hot flash
• Made an appointment for a face lift
• Clipped coupons for Depends
• Took out the trash
• Swapped out stylish jeans for Polyester Apparel
• Watched “Bowling For Dollars”
• Did 5 sit-ups, 5 leg lifts….forget what else
• Had another hot flash
• Looked through K-Mart ads for Flannel Pajamas, on sale
• Laughed so hard I fell off the bed
• Rejoiced I was able to get up
• Installed “Clap On” light
• Walked the dog, then realized I don’t have one
• Hummed while I did the dishes
• Called my kids by the wrong names
• Googled local Senior Centers
• Had another hot flash
• Practiced saying, “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up”
• Cancelled appointment for a face lift
• Started knitting slippers
• Played a game of Solitaire…with cards
• Sipped warm milk
• Went to bed at 8:30 p.m.
• Read a chapter of “Dentures; Grin and Bare It”
• Had a hot flash
• Fell asleep
Thu 2 Oct 2008
For That Warm and Fuzzy Feeling…
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WOW! Good golly wil-a-kers….has it really been that long? I actually got an email via my website asking if I had “kicked the bucket.” I haven’t, (you can all give your sigh of relief now!) but there have been a few times I’m pretty sure I was close to it. I have had that ears, throat, nose crap that has been going around…and I just haven’t felt good. My ears have been “plugged” for two weeks now. If things don’t start looking up I will be investing in very expensive hearing aids, as my constant “huhs?” and “what did you say?” are reminding me of a good ol’ conversation with my parents… (love you mom!) There have also been some family and close friend issues that have been weighing on my mind as well. In the end I know everything will be O.K., but for now I can’t help but wonder how, what and why things happen.
So you ask, ‘Heidi, what do you do when you’re so close to kicking the bucket and also have personal issues weighing on your mind?’ Well, I’m glad you asked. Time and time again I find myself drowning in music that will give me that little pick-me-up I need, that song that gives you that warm and fuzzy feeling, that helps get you through those times!! This by far is one of my favorites, click here to hear it!
Wed 1 Oct 2008
Life
Posted by Heidi under Life/Adversity, Quotes, Ramblings & Such
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Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see life with a clearer view again.
Alex Tan
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Author Unknown
Dreams are illustrations… from the book your soul is writing about you.
Marsha Norman
All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsion, habit, reason, passion, and desire.
Aristotle
The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
Robert Byrne
We all live under the same sky, but we don’t all have the same horizon.
Konrad Adenauer
Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.
Albert Einstein
Life’s not always fair. Sometimes you can get a splinter even sliding down a rainbow.
Cherralea Morgen
In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.
Robert Frost
To succeed in life, you need three things:Â a wishbone, a backbone and a funnybone.
Reba McEntire
What can appear to be your worst moments in life are sometimes just an invitation to yourself and to your next magical journey – a journey that we would never have had the courage to take unless forced to do so.
Mark Hoog
Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.
Soren Kierkegaard
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Winston Churchill
Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
Joseph Addison
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
George Carlin
Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.
Isaac Asimov
The human mind is like a TV set. When it goes blank, it’s a good idea to turn off the sound.
Author Unknown
Just living is not enough. One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.
Hans Christian Anderson
Bad is never good until worse happens.
Danish Proverb
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
Albert Einstein
Updated Nov. 2, 2008
People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.
Dalai Lama
At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
Albert Schweitzer
A man’s character may be learned from the adjectives, which he habitually uses in conversation.
Mark Twain
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
George Bernard Shaw
Updated June 27, 2009
Listen to what you know instead of what you fear.
Richard Bach
There is no future, there is no past, I live this moment as my last
Jonathan Larsonabout
A little knowledge that acts is worth infinitely more than much knowledge that is idle.
Kahlil Gibran
Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.
Elbert Hubbard
There is always room in your life for thinking bigger pushing limits and imagining the impossible.
Tony Robbins
You cannot kill time without injuring eternity.
Henry David Thoreau
Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass…it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Unknown
Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it?
C. Myss
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.
St. Augustine
As she has planted, so does she harvest; such is the field of karma.
Sri Guru Granth Sahib
How often I found where I should be going only by setting out for somewhere else.
Buckminster Fuller
You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.
Jon Kabat-Zinn
My life has a superb cast but I can’t figure out the plot.
Ashleigh Brilliant
The thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives.
Louise Hay
The man who has done his best has done everything.
Charles M. Schwab
Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.
Khano M.
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Wed 24 Sep 2008
Sorrow and Grief
Posted by Heidi under Hope/Sorrow, Quotes, Ramblings & Such
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We have no right to ask when a sorrow comes, ‘Why did this happen to me?’ unless we ask the same question for every joy that comes our way.
Phillip E. Berstein
We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.
Kenji Miyazawa
He who has not looked on Sorrow will never see Joy.
Kahlil Gibran
… joy and sorrow are inseparable. . . together they come and when one sits alone with you . . . remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.
Kahlil Gibran
You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.
Jan Glidewell
Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He’s going to be up all night anyway.
Mary C. Crowley
Tearless grief bleeds inwardly.
Christian Nevell Bovee
The worst sorrows in life are not in its losses and misfortunes, but its fears.
Christopher Benson
Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it.
Jacques Prévert
Sorrow makes us all children again – destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Tears are words the heart can’t express.
Author Unknown
You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.
Chinese proverb
Tears have a wisdom all their own. They come when a person has relaxed enough to let go and to work through his sorrow. They are the natural bleeding of an emotional wound, carrying the poison out of the system. Here lies the road to recovery.
F. Alexander Magoun
What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul.
Jewish Proverb
Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal.
Author Unknown
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
From a headstone in Ireland
Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see life with a clearer view again.
Alex Tan
What can appear to be your worst moments in life are sometimes just an invitation to yourself and to your next magical journey – a journey that we would never have had the courage to take unless forced to do so.
Mark Hoog
The pain passes, but the beauty remains.
Pierre Auguste Renoir
Sorrows cannot all be explained away in a life truly lived, grief and loss accumulate like possessions
Stefan Kanfer
Updated June 22, 2008
The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.
Caroline Myss
You move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer.
Byron Katie
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Mon 22 Sep 2008
Adversity
Posted by Heidi under Life/Adversity, Quotes, Ramblings & Such
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Success, Overcoming Adversity & Overcoming Failure
Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.
Napoleon Hill
Every good thought you think is contributing its share to the ultimate result of your life.
Grenville Kleiser
We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemy.
Rodrick Thorp
Never bend your head, always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.
Helen Keller
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.
Martin Luther King Jr
Oh God – Thy sea is so great and my boat is so small.
Author Unknown
I am an idealist. I don’t know where I am going but I’m on my way.
Carl Sandburg
As I grow to understand life less and less. I learn to live it more and more.
Jules Renard
You never really lose until you quit trying.
Mike Ditka
The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today.
Charles W. Eliot
The greatest possession is self-possession.
Ethel Watts Mumford
Live all you can; it’s a mistake not to. it doesn’t matter what you do in particular so long as you have your life.
Henry James
Life is a series of surprises. We do not guess today the mood, the pleasure, the power of tomorrow, when we are building up our being.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Resolve to be thyself: and know that he who finds himself loses misery.
Matthew Arnold
The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything.
Edward John Phelps
it is only because of problems we grow mentally and spiritually.
M. Scott Peck
Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
Theodore Roosevelt
You have to believe in happiness or happiness never comes.
Douglas Malloch
Don’t be sad, don’t be angry, if life deceives you submit to your grief- your time for joy will come, believe me.
Aleksandr Sergeyevich Pushkin
Gray skies are just clouds passing over.
Duke Ellington
Let me win, but if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt.
Special Olympics Motto
Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.
Helen Keller
Our lives are like the course of the sun. At the darkest moment there is the promise of daylight.
London Times
Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.
Henry David Thoreau
The best way out of a difficulty is through it.
Robert Frost
Updated Nov. 1, 2008
We cannot change the direction of the wind; but we can adjust our sails….
Author Unknown
Recovering from failure is often easier than building from success.
Michael Eisner
Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strength. When you go through hardship and decide not to surrender, that is strength.
Arnold Schwarzenegger
Do not fear the winds of adversity. Remember: A kite rises against the wind rather than with it.
Author Unknown
The greatest glory in living, lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.
Nelson Mandela
To reach a port we must sail, sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it. But we must not drift or lie at anchor.
Oliver Wendell Holmes
I would rather fail in a cause that will ultimately triumph than to triumph in a cause that will ultimately fail.
Woodrow Wilson
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Maria Robinson
If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.
Frank A. Clark
As long as you keep getting born, it’s alright to die some times.
Orson Scott Card
One who makes no mistakes never makes anything.
Unknown Author
You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.
Jan Glidewell
Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together.
Marilyn Monroe
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