“The Real Housewives of Orange County” star Gretchen Rossi just took a big hit in court — TMZ has learned her defamation allegations against ex boyfriend Jay Photoglou were just tossed out.

Gretchen had  filed a lawsuit against Jay earlier this year alleging he slandered her to the media by claiming her relationship with, now deceased, Jeff Beitzel was staged for the show — and that  it was actually Jay who was Gretchen’s boyfriend during the entire taping.

The case was heard in an OC court this afternoon … and the judge dismissed 3 huge causes — ruling that Jay is off the hook for slander, defamation, and false light…”

Read TMZ‘s full story here.

In other news, it has been reported Slade Smiley has had a reverse vasectomy done and is now officically engaged to be Mr Rossi to Gretchen. The ring is said to be a yellow diamond…rent-a-rock. Now that’s l-o-v-e! Awww…

GRETCHEN ROSSI VS. JAY PHOTOGLOU
MOTION FOR SLAPP 10/21/2010 02:00

Jay’s motion to strike:
Cause of action for slander- GRANTED
Cause of action for defamation- GRANTED
Cause of action for false light- GRANTED

Watch for updates!
Edited at 6:00 p.m.

“The Real Housewives of Orange County blonde lost a few of the legal legs she was standing on Thursday when a judge dismissed the meat of her defamation lawsuit against self-proclaimed ex-boyfriend Jay Photoglou.
For starters, the defamation part is out.

“Yes!” Photoglou exclaimed as he left the courtroom and gave his attorney a hug. (No official comment was forthcoming, however.)

The judge struck down Rossi’s claims of defamation, libel and portrayal in a false light after determining that her camp hadn’t offered up enough evidence to prove Photoglou was lying about the two of them being in a romantic relationship while she was engaged to Jeff Beitzel, who died of cancer in 2008.”

Full story at E! online

Edited at 5:15 p.m. CONGRATS JAY!!!!

Hi. Damn cup.
Been awhile, again…I know. My cup continues to runneth over and ya, I’m still enjoying the flow. That’s good, right? In the last few weeks, my baby turned 24, and a week later I turned, well…a year older.
I also got to spend a few days in Ventura. Although I had a wonderful time, it was a little bittersweet. So many memories there! But…the place I called home is now occupied by a stranger. There are no papasan chairs on the patio, laughter can no longer be heard a block away and the garage is lacking chaos. Deanna, my Ventura roommate, my BFF, has since moved out of state. It was kinda heartbreaking, but I was in great company and it was so refreshing just to be there again. The only thing lacking? My camera. I know, huh? I beat myself up at first and soon realized how nice it was to just take in and enjoy my surroundings. I did however have my pee-pee cell phone camera and couldn’t resist a few shots! Go ahead…click on ‘em!

This was probably one of the best birthdays I’ve had in a long time (Especially when you compare it to the one that was forgotten a few years back….I know.) My day started with an incredibly special Happy Birthday text message sent to me at exactly 12:00 a.m. The continued love I felt throughout the day was overwhelming, I kinda felt like a Princess…Princess Heidi. My friends and family are just awesome. Holla! The celebration (of Princess Heidi) continued that weekend with a get together of friends, both old and new. When I say old, I’m so not friggin’ kidding! Some of them I have celebrated my birthday with since I was 15 years old, and now I’m, well…older. The picture to the left is at my 16th birthday, the one on the right from this birthday. There are 4 of the same people in each one, can you tell who’s who? And really…what birthday would be complete without a group signed birthday card that reads,
Te Quiero, Mamita? I also received one of thee most heartfelt and special gifts imaginable, one I will forever hold near and dear to my heart, a $5.00 gift card to McDonalds. Earlier this year, I wrote Confessions To An Angel, in honor of my aunt who passed away earlier this year. Here is a small portion of it,

It has been 48 days since my Aunt Bobbie passed away, yet the reality of it it still unfathomable. I often find myself picking up the phone to call her, or making a mental note about something I need to tell her. I miss her laugh, her words of wisdom. I miss talking to her, I miss her.
I sat with her for a few hours, alone, just before she passed away. I laughed, I cried. I told her it was o.k. to go, I threatened she better not leave me. I talked and talked and talked (as usual)…she listened, (as usual) occasionally squeezing my hand or just giving me a simple sigh, letting me know she was present in the conversation.
I don’t remember exactly what I did or didn’t say, but I know there was, and never will be enough time or words to say everything I wanted…or needed to say A few things I may…or may not have forgotten…
• I am sorry for draining your phone battery nearly every time we talked.
• I will miss my $5.00 gift certificates to McDonalds in my birthday card each year.
• Thank you for being my babysitter, my aunt and my friend.

As my friend handed me the card, he said, ‘I remember reading about your aunt and this was one of the things you were going to miss…’ I couldn’t tell you the conversation following that. I was so touched and so moved by the gesture, not only was I breathless, I was speechless….and if you know me, that’s a feat in itself! So thank you to this very special friend for remembering not only me, but my Aunt Bobbie as well! I told you my friends were awesome, I am truly blessed to have them in my life! Holla!
I have kinda always thought birthdays should last the whole month but I have yet been able to convince anyone else of that. The festivities have come and gone, the memories however will remain a lifetime! Here’s to another fun-filled year. I’m already looking forward to next year so I can once again feel like a Princess…Princess Heidi.

…on Thursday!

With my baby just turning 24, I thought this Blast From The Past would be appropriate right about now. It’s hard to believe at the tender age of 31, (give or take a few years) I could have a 27 and a 24 year old. Hard to believe these little guys are both over 6 feet tall now and no longer obsessed with boots and lipstick (sorry boys, but I have the pictures to prove it!) The hardest thing to believe? They are actually best friends now. I do believe in miracles. Without further ado…the lights of my life.
Originally posted January 30th, 2009.

I have been sorting through pictures these past few days. Remember in the olden days, when you snapped a picture and as soon as the roll of film was done you ran to the local drugstore, dropped it off and eagerly waited 10 days for it to be developed? You always ordered double prints so grandma and aunt Betsy could have some, only to find 4 pictures that were actually viewable. At first you were very diligent about keeping your treasures organized and in albums, but eventually all hell broke loose. You are now left with boxes of loose photos not having a clue who or what they are of. I decided it was time to at least organize my kids pictures and catch up on their albums but the more I go through…the worse I feel.

You both are so cute, so loving and have so much personality!

I don’t know why I would allow you to wear a necktie to kindergarten each day, then skate around the neighborhood. I must say you were quite the trend setter back then!

What was I thinking when I matched you head to toe….in not so masculine clothes,
I promise I corrected every last person that said, “she’s gorgeous”

You are my pride and joy. The three of us were always together!

But maybe it wasn’t a good idea to put you in spandex shorts
and get on with our day in our matching Batman t-shirts…

I was so proud that by your second birthday you were potty
trained and now wearing “big boy” chonies!!

Bless your heart, you tried so hard to walk in them….
I swear at the time I thought it was cute!

Madonna called…she said she wants her boots and butterfly belt buckle back.
We’ll blame your dad for this one!! Love you! (who can we blame for that carpet??)

Surprise!! We were on vacation and guess who got all gussied-up for dinner
all by himself? You were the cutest thing ever! Everybody thought…. nobody saw you….

You and your “bestie” were always so trendy….

Trying to teach you independence and responsibility, Mom sends you out for
a day of errands, unfortunately you had to do it without your super cool shades…..

….I was sporting them and my super cool 80′s suit at the beach

Yes boys, mom has her moments too!!

The pictures obviously are endearing to me, however if I were to show them to anyone….
I have many more to conquer, which I’m sure will lead to more laughs, a few tears and probably a few more posts!!! I love you boys